My View On Love

Most people today spend a great deal of their lives trying to find "the one." Just when you think your search is over, things seem to pop up. Little things here and there start to make you question if your significant other is truly the one. If it would all be better off over now, instead of dragging it out.

Is this how it is? Do they understand me? Some of us expereince these questions at one time or another in every realtionship. Should they be brushed aside? Who is even right in an argument? Do you both have the same questions after an argument?

I believe that sometimes one party believes that they are right; only to be wrong. This is due to the thought they had in thier head that they were right, they can never understand just how wrong they are.

Sometimes people compare you to past relationships. Not truly meaning too, but that is what they do. They have become insecure in trusting the opposit sex, and themselves with a blind eye. They look at you with intensity and meaning in their eyes, but they have a wall, a wall that is invisible to them. One that has been their so long they don't see it anymore. It has become, sort of, a security blanket. This makes everything in a new realtionship look back to the past. Though only one of you went through it, you both are forced to relive it.

Then, there is those people who let their past realtionships go. The past is the past. You went through it, it is over. You don't see yourself comparing your new and past relationships. Everyday and everyone you meet gets their own page. When a chapter is closed it is gone. It was bad enough you went through it once. Relive nothing.

Taking a step back and looking at the pieces you see, then maybe you can sympathize to the other party involved. They don't realize, they don't understand. But shouldn't they understand and know all of this before "I Love You" is ever said? Then the other party starts to question the "I Love You" all together. Does this mean that they love you only if you change, or they love half of you? Do they even know what love means?

I have experienced what I would call a 'moderate' amount of bullshit. I have read through the lines many times before and I take things for what they are worth. I have come to one realization you never know what you are getting into, but if you ride it out long enough YOU WILL KNOW when to walk away. Sometimes people are pig headed and hateful, but you have to let everyone have their way occasionally. This does not mean I believe and taking being mistreated, it is more of a way of saying you know deep down when you should walk away.

Does I love you mean the same thing to them as it does to you? 99% of the time no. Most people don't truly know what love is. Sure everyone thinks they know, but they truly don't. Maybe they really do think they love you. I have found out if they don't trust you (which is shown through actions, and lied through words), then they they don't truly love you. Maybe they car about you as much as they think they can. But love is not they word they should be using. I love you are three words that are misinterpreted more than any others.

Being in love and ending your journey with the right one is a wonderful thing, but more of us will be at the starting line in the very end. Very few people will have made it to the finish and stay there. It is a sad fact, but it is true. Not everyone has a fairytale life. True love is out there, but it takes work and half of us would just hang up the phone, shut the door, or never look back.

Until Then,
Blondie